Seeking out pleasurable or restorative activities are forms of self-care that can bring much-needed balance to our lives. And because work and home life demand so much of you, you might find that you need to be intentional about integrating these types of beneficial activities into your life because otherwise,
The Shrinking Self
Emotional pain is unavoidable. And many are forced to deal with this pain very early in life: the sting of failing, of being let down, of coming face-to-face with real and imagined limitations; the pain caused by bullying and ostracism; grief brought about by the death of a parent or
The Shame of the Cheating Spouse
Eric’s marriage didn’t survive his infidelity. After attempting to recover from his affair for over two years (attempts that included infidelity counseling, affair recovery workshops and reading numerous books on healing betrayal trauma), Eric and his wife Cassandra made the painful decision to end their marriage. Before then, the couple
Sexually Abused Boys, Self-Destructive Men
“I never thought of what happened to me as sexual abuse. I was ten when my [teenage] babysitter began to suggest that she and I show each other our genitals. And after that it quickly escalated to oral sex. This lasted on and off for about three years until she
Obsessive Thoughts After Infidelity
“I think I’m losing my mind, I keep thinking about Lee’s affair and what he did. I’m flooded with a thousand questions about why he cheated and what they did together. I can’t turn it off.” Samantha shared her frustration in one of our infidelity counseling sessions. The spiral of