Eric’s marriage didn’t survive his infidelity. After attempting to recover from his affair for over two years (attempts that included infidelity counseling, affair recovery workshops and reading numerous books on healing betrayal trauma), Eric and his wife Cassandra made the painful decision to end their marriage. Before then, the couple
Sexually Abused Boys, Self-Destructive Men
“I never thought of what happened to me as sexual abuse. I was ten when my [teenage] babysitter began to suggest that she and I show each other our genitals. And after that it quickly escalated to oral sex. This lasted on and off for about three years until she
Obsessive Thoughts After Infidelity
“I think I’m losing my mind, I keep thinking about Lee’s affair and what he did. I’m flooded with a thousand questions about why he cheated and what they did together. I can’t turn it off.” Samantha shared her frustration in one of our infidelity counseling sessions. The spiral of
Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Merriam-Webster defines betrayal as being “treacherously abandoned, deserted, or mistreated.” While there are different kinds of betrayals that lead to different emotional outcomes, often the betrayed is left in an overwhelming state of emotional distress due to the actions of a loved one. Disorienting shock waves can continue long after
The Inner World of a Compulsive Liar
The following is the second post in a series on pathological lying. In the first post, Notes from a Pathological Liar, we heard from Jay, a man in his forties who created a web of lies that ended up devastating his fiancee and their relationship. In this post, we’ll look