Emotional pain is an inevitable aspect of the human experience, something we all encounter at some point in our lives. As we navigate this pain, we develop coping mechanisms to help us manage and alleviate our suffering. Some of these coping strategies are conscious and intentional, such as reaching out
Trauma, Shame and Loneliness
The experience of trauma is inherently shaming and isolating. Attachment traumas (psychological wounds caused by those you were dependent upon or those who had power over you) cause considerable levels of anxiety and confusion, and feelings of betrayal and rejection, that are difficult to navigate. Children and teens who suffer
Sexually Abused Boys, Self-Destructive Men
“I never thought of what happened to me as sexual abuse. I was ten when my [teenage] babysitter began to suggest that she and I show each other our genitals. And after that it quickly escalated to oral sex. This lasted on and off for about three years until she
Understanding Destructive Compartmentalization
While in queue to order coffee one day not too long ago, I couldn’t help but hear the woman ahead of me in line speaking into her phone. “What I’m saying is that you don’t have to think about it at all,” she said. That was followed by a long
The Dark Side of Mental Compartmentalization
“I’ve always been able to compartmentalize. It’s like putting things into boxes so I don’t have to think about them.” ~Daniel, 47 We all have the ability to block certain experiences from awareness. And that’s not always a bad thing. The ability to focus and get through a work