Childhood trauma — sexual, emotional or physical abuse; the death or abandonment of a parent — can have a lasting impact on an individual’s sense of self and emotional wellbeing. Certain traumatic events shake us at our core, negatively impacting the foundation of our self-development. If we don’t deal with
Understanding Self-sabotaging Behaviors
You may have heard the advice to “just get out of your own way.” You may have even given that advice to a friend (or to yourself). Perhaps you see the wisdom in that and the potential applicability to some part of your own life. And yet, why is it
Understanding Vulnerable Narcissism
When you see the words “narcissism” and “narcissist,” you might think of someone (or several people) you personally know. And in thinking about these individuals, other words might pop into your mind: “Selfish and self-absorbed”; “inconsiderate”; “excessively boastful”; “manipulative”; “uncaring” (just to name a few). But what do you think
Compartmentalization, Escapism, and the Beleaguered Self
Seeking out pleasurable or restorative activities are forms of self-care that can bring much-needed balance to our lives. And because work and home life demand so much of you, you might find that you need to be intentional about integrating these types of beneficial activities into your life because otherwise,
Sexually Abused Boys, Self-Destructive Men
“I never thought of what happened to me as sexual abuse. I was ten when my [teenage] babysitter began to suggest that she and I show each other our genitals. And after that it quickly escalated to oral sex. This lasted on and off for about three years until she