Trust isn’t merely an isolated component of a relationship; it’s the bedrock upon which the entire relationship is built. Without trust, a relationship is compromised and cannot offer a couple the conditions necessary for emotional safety and connection. One of the most devastating consequences of betrayal trauma is the shattering
Buried Pain: Childhood Trauma’s Impact on Infidelity
The lingering effects of childhood abuse can manifest in complicated ways, shaping how adult survivors of abuse see themselves and how they interact with others. Many survivors of childhood abuse adopt coping strategies to manage the psychological after-effects of the abuse, even if those strategies remain largely automatic or subconscious.
Childhood Trauma, Affair-Prone Adult
“My wife keeps asking me: ‘Why did you cheat? If you love me the way you say you do, how could you have done this to me?’ I wish I had an answer, but the truth is, I really don’t know. It kills me that my not knowing keeps her
Understanding the Habitual Liar
A habit, according to Merriam-Webster dictionary, is “an acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary.” We all have certain behaviors that have become habitual, actions so automated that we have no awareness we are engaging in them. Driving is a well-known example of a complex series
Sexually Abused Boys, Self-Destructive Men
“I never thought of what happened to me as sexual abuse. I was ten when my [teenage] babysitter began to suggest that she and I show each other our genitals. And after that it quickly escalated to oral sex. This lasted on and off for about three years until she