You may have heard the advice to “just get out of your own way.” You may have even given that advice to a friend (or to yourself). Perhaps you see the wisdom in that and the potential applicability to some part of your own life. And yet, why is it
Betrayal Trauma and Moral Injury
We all have the potential to act in ways that contradict our own values, and in doing so, undertake actions that can be damaging to ourselves and, potentially, others. Yes, even “good” people can make “poor” behavioral choices. These self-contradictions can be difficult to make sense of and are often
Guide to Surviving Infidelity
If you’re in an intimate relationship devastated by infidelity, you know the feeling of the solid relationship ground you’ve come to rely on suddenly turning to quicksand under your feet. You are likely reading this article because you’re struggling with this incredibly disorienting and painful experience, and you’re at a
Understanding the Habitual Liar
A habit, according to Merriam-Webster dictionary, is “an acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary.” We all have certain behaviors that have become habitual, actions so automated that we have no awareness we are engaging in them. Driving is a well-known example of a complex series
Understanding Vulnerable Narcissism
When you see the words “narcissism” and “narcissist,” you might think of someone (or several people) you personally know. And in thinking about these individuals, other words might pop into your mind: “Selfish and self-absorbed”; “inconsiderate”; “excessively boastful”; “manipulative”; “uncaring” (just to name a few). But what do you think