When someone comes to therapy to address an issue that is negatively impacting their life, part of the therapist’s job is to build an understanding of what is getting in the client’s way of living a more fulfilling life. This understanding evolves as more becomes known about the person and
Surviving Infidelity: Unfaithful Partner
If you’ve cheated on your partner or spouse, you are probably witnessing the emotional and behavioral rollercoaster of a betrayal trauma. Like any challenging path, the journey toward healing is not without its twists and turns. The commitment to surviving infidelity requires both individual as well as relational understanding and
Trauma, Shame and Loneliness
The experience of trauma is inherently shaming and isolating. Attachment traumas (psychological wounds caused by those you were dependent upon or those who had power over you) cause considerable levels of anxiety and confusion, and feelings of betrayal and rejection, that are difficult to navigate. Children and teens who suffer
Understanding Your Inner Critic
We all have some version of an inner critic, that voice or part of us that harshly judges us for something we’ve thought, felt or done. This inner critic might only emerge from time to time, depending on circumstance; or this critical inner voice can feel unrelenting and hostile, rarely
Childhood Trauma, Affair-Prone Adult
“My wife keeps asking me: ‘Why did you cheat? If you love me the way you say you do, how could you have done this to me?’ I wish I had an answer, but the truth is, I really don’t know. It kills me that my not knowing keeps her