We all have some version of an inner critic, that voice or part of us that harshly judges us for something we’ve thought, felt or done. This inner critic might only emerge from time to time, depending on circumstance; or this critical inner voice can feel unrelenting and hostile, rarely
Childhood Trauma, Affair-Prone Adult
“My wife keeps asking me: ‘Why did you cheat? If you love me the way you say you do, how could you have done this to me?’ I wish I had an answer, but the truth is, I really don’t know. It kills me that my not knowing keeps her
Understanding Self-sabotaging Behaviors
You may have heard the advice to “just get out of your own way.” You may have even given that advice to a friend (or to yourself). Perhaps you see the wisdom in that and the potential applicability to some part of your own life. And yet, why is it
Betrayal Trauma and Moral Injury
We all have the potential to act in ways that contradict our own values, and in doing so, undertake actions that can be damaging to ourselves and, potentially, others. Yes, even “good” people can make “poor” behavioral choices. These self-contradictions can be difficult to make sense of and are often
Guide to Surviving Infidelity
If you’re in an intimate relationship devastated by infidelity, you know the feeling of the solid relationship ground you’ve come to rely on suddenly turning to quicksand under your feet. You are likely reading this article because you’re struggling with this incredibly disorienting and painful experience, and you’re at a