self-defeating

Understanding Self-sabotaging Behaviors

You may have heard the advice to “just get out of your own way.” You may have even given that advice to a friend (or to yourself). Perhaps you see the wisdom in that and the potential applicability to some part of your own life. And yet, why is it

“Why Am I Doing This to Myself?”: The Pain of Self-Sabotage

“I’ve had it,” Joaquin said at a men’s group meeting, his pronouncement lighting up his Zoom screen along with his image. “I’ve had it with myself. I know I want to be with someone, really be with her for the long run, but every single time it gets really good,