A great deal has been written about what goes into making a healthy marriage. This is a topic that most of us have opinions about, opinions based on our own marital experiences as well as the values and biases we hold about relationships. A significant portion of relationship advice literature
5 Ways to Ruin a Perfectly Good Marriage
Couples often come to see me wanting to know what they can do to improve or save their marriage. Breakdowns in communication may predominate for these couples. They’ve gotten stuck in cycles of negativity and the pain of continuously not seeing eye-to-eye. They are ready for a change. They want
5 Reasons You Can’t Let Go of Conflict in Your Marriage
If you’ve ever struggled with the unpleasant aftermath of an argument with someone you care about, feeling wounded and hurt and unable to move past it, and if you’ve been told to “just get over it,” you know it’s not that easy, even if your partner is ready to put
Emotional Connection: Are You Opening Yourself Up to Intimacy?
Emotions are contagious (1). It’s like your feelings create an orbit with a gravitational pull and once your spouse/partner is pulled into your emotional orbit, s/he will begin to feel what you are feeling (to some degree). You might already be aware of this happening: When you offer comfort to
5 Points for Better Communication
We are a culture that is hungry for information. And it’s easy to quickly become overloaded by the enormous amount of information that is available on any given topic. And to complicate matters, it’s not uncommon to receive contradictory messages about the same issue. In the couples workshops I lead, I often