Many couples dealing with infidelity tell themselves that the hardest part of recovery is the period immediately following the discovery of the affair. While it’s true that the shock may be the worst the betrayed partner has ever felt — it can truly feel like everything you’ve counted on has
“Why Am I Doing This to Myself?”: The Pain of Self-Sabotage
“I’ve had it,” Joaquin said at a men’s group meeting, his pronouncement lighting up his Zoom screen along with his image. “I’ve had it with myself. I know I want to be with someone, really be with her for the long run, but every single time it gets really good,
Surviving Infidelity: Healing the Trauma of Betrayal
If you are reading this article, you might be dealing firsthand with the painful aftershocks of an affair — a psychological, emotional and relational disruption that can quickly turn your life inside-out. Learning that your partner has been unfaithful is traumatic; the deeply held assumptions and beliefs you’ve had about
An Often-Overlooked Barrier to Healing Infidelity
Healing from the trauma of an affair is rarely easy, and it’s rarely straightforward. However, I’ve worked with many couples in counseling who have come back from the devastation of infidelity to rebuild a strong marriage/relationship, so I know it is possible. If you’re on the road to affair recovery,
Affair Healing: A Wife Speaks
Arguably, infidelity is the most devastating thing that can happen to a relationship. And while it’s true that it impacts the marriage/relationship itself, in ways that perhaps you can’t anticipate unless you’ve experienced it yourself, it’s important to remember that what’s impacted most directly and acutely is the individual who