“Why can’t you just tell the truth?” Over the course of my twenty-plus years as a psychologist specializing in men’s issues and couples counseling, I’ve heard that very question (or variations of it) from many a betrayed, wounded partner. And the answer, from the half of the couple who has
When Your Husband Is a Sex Addict
It is devastating to discover that your spouse/partner has been unfaithful and/or has a secretive life involving pornography (or some other form of sexual acting out). The betrayal-trauma can shatter your most deeply held assumptions, tearing apart the reality of a relationship that once grounded you and gave meaning to
Why Do Men Cheat? (Part 3)
Re-creating the dramas of our past Welcome to part three of Why Do Men Cheat?, a series designed for individuals and couples working on affair recovery. Today we venture into the topic of how our childhoods can play a role in certain affair dynamics. We are exploring this important issue
Why Men Cheat (Part 2)
This is the second article in the series Why Some Men Cheat. During the painful aftermath of a marital affair (especially for couples who have decided to try to heal their marriage after infidelity), it’s common to hear the betrayed partner ask the person who had an affair, “Why? Why
Why Men Cheat (Part 1)
This article is the first in the Why Men Cheat series that explores the complex issues that drive some men to have affairs. This article’s title isn’t meant to imply that all men cheat—obviously they don’t (and it also isn’t meant to imply that women are immune to cheating). But