From its inception, psychoanalysis (and the field of psychotherapy) has explored how individuals protect themselves when faced with overwhelming emotional pain. This can be the pain caused by events in the past (pain that we that repress and unconsciously work to keep at a distance), or the pain resulting from
How Do I Know If I Need A Psychologist?
When people I meet in social settings find out that I’m a psychologist, they often jokingly say something like, “Boy, I should really come to see you!” Or they might describe some aspect of their life and ask, “So doc, do you think I need a psychologist?” These tongue-in-cheek reactions
The Pain of Loving a Narcissist
Narcissism has been getting a lot of attention lately from professionals and the general public. The term is now commonly used in everyday discourse to describe those we see as self-absorbed and uncaring. This has been called the age of narcissism; research suggests that narcissism is on the rise. We
The Pain of Boredom, Loneliness and Emptiness
Human beings are feeling beings. Our emotions infuse life with meaning — without emotions, life would simply be rote happenings that fill up our psychic ledger. Emotions can bring us vibrancy, engagement and direction. But not all emotions are easily tolerated and integrated into our lives. When an emotional experience
The Surprising Benefits of Tolerating Discomfort
“There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart’s desire. The other is to get it.” ~ George Bernard Shaw Ours can be called the era of self-fulfillment. Knowing what we want and staking a claim to the object(s) of our desires is the mantra of