The experience of trauma is inherently shaming and isolating. Attachment traumas (psychological wounds caused by those you were dependent upon or those who had power over you) cause considerable levels of anxiety and confusion, and feelings of betrayal and rejection, that are difficult to navigate. Children and teens who suffer
Understanding Self-sabotaging Behaviors
You may have heard the advice to “just get out of your own way.” You may have even given that advice to a friend (or to yourself). Perhaps you see the wisdom in that and the potential applicability to some part of your own life. And yet, why is it
Understanding Vulnerable Narcissism
When you see the words “narcissism” and “narcissist,” you might think of someone (or several people) you personally know. And in thinking about these individuals, other words might pop into your mind: “Selfish and self-absorbed”; “inconsiderate”; “excessively boastful”; “manipulative”; “uncaring” (just to name a few). But what do you think
The Shrinking Self
Emotional pain is unavoidable. And many are forced to deal with this pain very early in life: the sting of failing, of being let down, of coming face-to-face with real and imagined limitations; the pain caused by bullying and ostracism; grief brought about by the death of a parent or
Avoidant Attachment: Close, but Not Too Close
We all practice avoidance. Whether it’s keeping away from a person you don’t enjoy being around, avoiding certain foods for health reasons, or steering clear of a congested road during your commute, it’s not hard to argue the fact that avoidance is a smart option. Truly, avoidance can be an