Human beings are feeling beings. Our emotions infuse life with meaning — without emotions, life would simply be rote happenings that fill up our psychic ledger. Emotions can bring us vibrancy, engagement and direction. But not all emotions are easily tolerated and integrated into our lives. When an emotional experience
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To be in relationship is to be human. Our most basic drive, attachment theory tells us, is to form close relationships that give us the psychological sustenance to grow emotionally. And like the food that feeds our body, the need for relationships never diminishes. But like all phenomena that offer
The Surprising Benefits of Tolerating Discomfort
“There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart’s desire. The other is to get it.” ~ George Bernard Shaw Ours can be called the era of self-fulfillment. Knowing what we want and staking a claim to the object(s) of our desires is the mantra of
Friending Your Inner Resiliency
One of the things that all humans have in common is that we will face suffering along the journey of life. Inevitably, we will be confronted with things that are beyond our control. And some of those will involve extreme pain and will represent extreme challenges. Another commonality we share:
Are You Enslaving Yourself to Secrets?
Secrets…everyone has some, right? And, as long as you keep them locked away, as long as they don’t escape and end up in the wrong ears, they’re harmless, right? Well… You start by keeping a secret; but the bigger the secret (in other words, the more vigilantly you feel you