“I’ve had it,” Joaquin said at a men’s group meeting, his pronouncement lighting up his Zoom screen along with his image. “I’ve had it with myself. I know I want to be with someone, really be with her for the long run, but every single time it gets really good,
Holding Yourself Hostage: Living with an Inner Tyrant
“I’m really hard on myself…but that’s good, right? I guess you could say I’m a perfectionist.” Caesar goes on to give me several examples of his perfectionism: if he makes a mistake at work (“and there’s no mistake too small to overlook”), he doesn’t just beat himself up internally with
Giving Voice to Depression and Anxiety
If you’ve ever experienced depression, you may be one of the many individuals who have also experienced anxiety at the same time. The reverse is also true: many people who have experienced anxiety have also simultaneously suffered from depression. Indeed, research shows that anxiety and depression often occur together. When
Too Afraid to Care: Avoidant Attachment
For those who have an avoidant attachment style, caring comes at a significant emotional cost. “It’s always been hard for me to get close to people. I have this wall that goes up. Maybe it’s never completely down. I know it’s frustrated my wife. I’ve been accused of not feeling,
Getting the Most Out of Therapy
If you are thinking about starting therapy, or if you are already working with a psychologist or counselor, you obviously want to get the most out of your counseling experience. Although there is a substantial body of research showing that psychotherapy is helpful for a wide range of emotional issues,