Emotions are contagious (1). It’s like your feelings create an orbit with a gravitational pull and once your spouse/partner is pulled into your emotional orbit, s/he will begin to feel what you are feeling (to some degree). You might already be aware of this happening: When you offer comfort to
5 Points for Better Communication
We are a culture that is hungry for information. And it’s easy to quickly become overloaded by the enormous amount of information that is available on any given topic. And to complicate matters, it’s not uncommon to receive contradictory messages about the same issue. In the couples workshops I lead, I often
Keeping the Sexual Spark Alive in Marriage
When couples seeking to boost intimacy only look to the physical aspect of their sex lives, they are missing the big picture. When something is wrong in our lives, our focus often narrows to a particular part of the problem, rather than looking at the broader context that might be
Words That Shut Down Communication
The words we use shape our relationships in powerful ways. This is especially the case in your marriage or intimate relationship. The words you use and how you speak to your spouse/partner will either make him/her feel closer to you, keep the status quo, or push him/her away. Distressed couples
Emotional Affair: Identify and Protect Your Marriage
Increasing numbers of individuals and couples are entering counseling because of the fallout of emotional infidelity. In an emotional affair, one partner is accused of having an inappropriately intense (and close) emotional relationship with someone outside the marriage. Often, the person accused of emotional infidelity denies these claims, downplaying what is