It’s probably easier to think about the concept of “acceptance” when it comes to other people, especially those people with whom you’re in a relationship. What may not be as obvious—but what is crucial to effectively and genuinely accepting others—is that the most important form of acceptance is in relationship
Rebuilding After an Affair: Understanding Triggers
There may be nothing more devastating to a marriage or long-term relationship than an affair. But if you and your partner are one of the many couples that decide to try to heal from an affair, there is hope. Affair recovery can be a long, gradual process, sometimes circuitous, and
Grieving the Loss of a Loved One
In writing about the loss of a loved one, it’s difficult to find the right words to capture the enormity and depth of the pain involved. When someone we deeply love dies, grief takes over. The darkness can feel inescapable and never-ending. Is it possible to find solace when faced
Emerging Whole After An Affair
It’s not hard to imagine why the act of rebuilding a marriage/relationship after an affair is a major challenge. The pathways to healing are often circuitous and frustrating. Couples who expect a linear, short-term fix to getting their marriage back on track are likely to give up prematurely. Understanding the
Hearing the Real Message Behind Complaining
Couples who come to see me for couples/marriage counseling frequently do so because they are no longer communicating in meaningful ways. The bridges built on effective communication have deteriorated. “We just don’t talk about anything meaningful anymore”; “S/he’s more interested in texting her/his friends than spending time with me”; “I’m