The trauma of infidelity is considerable. The psychological upheaval can result in symptoms like depression, insomnia, anger/rage, intrusive thoughts about the affair, emotional flooding, mistrust (bordering on paranoia), to name a few. You can feel like you are losing your mind. And then at some point you are faced with
The Pain of Boredom, Loneliness and Emptiness
Human beings are feeling beings. Our emotions infuse life with meaning — without emotions, life would simply be rote happenings that fill up our psychic ledger. Emotions can bring us vibrancy, engagement and direction. But not all emotions are easily tolerated and integrated into our lives. When an emotional experience
Self-Care for Therapists
For the most part, the people who come to see therapists are in pain. Some are in great anguish. While the tendency at both a societal and individual level is to turn away from the suffering of others, therapists turn toward the pain of others. To establish a healing relationship,
Healthy Boundaries, Healthy Self
To be in relationship is to be human. Our most basic drive, attachment theory tells us, is to form close relationships that give us the psychological sustenance to grow emotionally. And like the food that feeds our body, the need for relationships never diminishes. But like all phenomena that offer
The Surprising Benefits of Tolerating Discomfort
“There are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart’s desire. The other is to get it.” ~ George Bernard Shaw Ours can be called the era of self-fulfillment. Knowing what we want and staking a claim to the object(s) of our desires is the mantra of