Addiction is about being helplessly in the grip of something that starts to override your decision-making capacities; you become a passenger in a life that increasingly careens out of control. Prior to acknowledging that a problem exists, you might have felt capable in managing your life because the major areas
The Post-Affair Crisis: What to Expect
There’s no doubt about it: the discovery of an extramarital affair comes with psychological and emotional upheavals. It’s as if a bomb has gone off in your marriage/relationship, and the only thing you can be certain of is that a trauma has occurred and there are casualties. During this extremely
Counseling for Infidelity: What to Expect
Couples dealing with the aftermath of an affair are in turmoil. Turmoil that may make them question whether the marriage should continue. Turmoil that motivates some couples to seek counseling. The moment the affair was discovered, life as you knew it has been turned inside out. There is uncertainty about
Why Do Men Cheat? (Part 3)
Re-creating the dramas of our past Welcome to part three of Why Do Men Cheat?, a series designed for individuals and couples working on affair recovery. Today we venture into the topic of how our childhoods can play a role in certain affair dynamics. We are exploring this important issue
Questions to Ask Your Therapist
It can feel daunting to find a new therapist and start therapy. Therapy requires you to share extremely personal information about yourself and your life — a process that makes you vulnerable — so finding someone you feel good about is vital. Even if you have an appointment with a