This article is a companion to “Why My Affair Recovery Has Stalled,” where we looked at a very common stumbling block couples healing from infidelity face after some time has passed: signals of impatience from the partner who was unfaithful. Specifically, impatience for the betrayed partner to put the affair
Why My Affair Recovery Has Stalled
Many couples dealing with infidelity tell themselves that the hardest part of recovery is the period immediately following the discovery of the affair. While it’s true that the shock may be the worst the betrayed partner has ever felt — it can truly feel like everything you’ve counted on has
“Why Am I Doing This to Myself?”: The Pain of Self-Sabotage
“I’ve had it,” Joaquin said at a men’s group meeting, his pronouncement lighting up his Zoom screen along with his image. “I’ve had it with myself. I know I want to be with someone, really be with her for the long run, but every single time it gets really good,
Creating a Holding Space for Clients
The metaphor of “holding space” for a client or someone in need has become increasingly popular among mental health professionals. It’s not uncommon to hear therapists talk about the importance of “holding space” for their clients’ pain. What does it mean to hold space for a client? At a fundamental
When Therapy Isn’t Working
There are numerous reasons why clients end therapy. The most obvious is that the clients feel ready to take what they’ve learned from therapy into their lives. Another common reason is that the circumstances of a client’s life have changed and the therapy has become less of a necessity because