“I’ve had it,” Joaquin said at a men’s group meeting, his pronouncement lighting up his Zoom screen along with his image. “I’ve had it with myself. I know I want to be with someone, really be with her for the long run, but every single time it gets really good,
Creating a Holding Space for Clients
The metaphor of “holding space” for a client or someone in need has become increasingly popular among mental health professionals. It’s not uncommon to hear therapists talk about the importance of “holding space” for their clients’ pain. What does it mean to hold space for a client? At a fundamental
When Therapy Isn’t Working
There are numerous reasons why clients end therapy. The most obvious is that the clients feel ready to take what they’ve learned from therapy into their lives. Another common reason is that the circumstances of a client’s life have changed and the therapy has become less of a necessity because
Surviving Infidelity: Healing the Trauma of Betrayal
If you are reading this article, you might be dealing firsthand with the painful aftershocks of an affair — a psychological, emotional and relational disruption that can quickly turn your life inside-out. Learning that your partner has been unfaithful is traumatic; the deeply held assumptions and beliefs you’ve had about
Signs of Depression
According to the American Psychiatric Association, one in six people will experience depression over the course of their lifetime. Still, depression remains hard to talk about for many, and in some circles is minimized or seen as a weakness of will. It’s no wonder so many people choose not to